I’m baaaack (said with Jack Nicholson’s voice in my head). Yeah, I really am. When last I wrote, I had just lost my cat of 14 ¾ years and had twisted my left knee, leaving it difficult to workout. I fell victim to my usual pattern of giving up, eating poorly and going with the all-or-nothing strategy. Also during this time I regained the 15 pounds I lost, gave my knee time to heal, and found a girlfriend (for the first time in 6 ½ years). What has amazed me is she likes me for me and the fact that I’m a little overweight isn’t a deal-breaker. What is a problem is neither of us is truly happy with our weight & we both want to be healthy, for ourselves and each other. We gained a little ”˜relationship weight’ together and now we’re going to be supportive and help each other get healthy. There is something to say for having an accountability-partner in this process.
To be clear, we have made it past the lesbian “U-Haul Anniversary” of 1 month and still have our own homes. We’re both starting school Monday, August 27, me as a middle school teacher, she as a nursing student. As a result, we can be supportive, yet will be able to lose weight and exercise in the way that is best for us individually. We will both be writing about our strategies, experiences, and how we feel about our own processes. The plan is to post weekly until the end of December, giving us 4 months to make and see a difference.
At this point I should say we are _very_ different people. She was an athlete; I, a band nerd. She has a lot more muscle than I do and is a whole lot stronger. My frame is slighter than hers. When losing weight, she focuses on weight training and lifting, while I focus on cardio. As we write, my measure of change will be listed by pounds and BMI, while she will show her progress through pounds and measurements. Neither is better, just different. Oh, and to help everyone see the progress, or lack of, we took a picture of ourselves in clothes we hope to be comfortably wearing in 4 months (her idea, much to my chagrin). It is incredibly embarrassing to publically post a picture of yourself in a cotton-based sausage casing! It’s even worse when your girlfriend says, “oh honey!,” while having a look of pity on her face as she turns blue from lack of oxygen from her own 2-sizes-too- small shorts. We will update the picture at the start of each month. We hope that you will find one, or both, of our journeys helpful, humorous, and possibly inspiring. January 1st (resolution time) is a mere 4 months away.
Dawn Adkins has her PhD in Health & Organizational Communication. She has written several published articles on health issues as well as designed health-oriented campaigns. Any constructive comments regarding this article should be addressed to: firstname.lastname@example.org